Boys are magical creatures. Their energy, way of looking at the Earth, enthusiasm for life and physicality are a joy to behold. Seeing my son as he grows up is a constant source of surprise and joy to me. Yet understand his rambunctious energy needs leadership to make sure he grows up to be the best man he is. Among the most significant ways we could do that, as parents is to raise our boys to be gentlemen.
Why Should We Teach Our Sons to be Gentlemen?
Once we raise our sons as gentlemen, we are giving them a strong rulebook to guide them through life.
Being a gentleman teaches a boy three major lessons in life:
- How to honor their Masculinity and manliness
- The way to take care of other people with courtesy and respect
- How to be build a personality to be proud of
It May Look an old Fashioned notion, yet raising our sons to be gentlemen is as important a part of being a parent as teaching them right from wrong. It means teaching our sons to be brave and considerate; to protect, not misuse; and to select solid values to live by, instead of the bad values promoted in the media.
How Can We Teach Our Sons to be Gentlemen?
As parents, we will need to model and teach our boys how to be gentlemen. It would not happen unintentionally – we will need to intentionally teach the qualities that we want our boys to exhibit.
- The first step is to realize our toddlers are seeing how we treat one another, so be respectful and kind towards each other. Manners are both captured and educated as children observe their parents showing kindness and courtesy to one another. So, mums, allow your husband open the car door for you.
- Teach boys to have a respectful attitude towards others. The rule you are teaching them is to ‘treat others as they want to be treated’. Invite them to greet people with a handshake and a smile; not to use words which could offend the listener, such as swear words tell my son that swear words were devised for instances of intense emotion or pain – if he chops his finger off with an axe, then he could declare he likes. . Gentlemen are also brave enough to piggyback tavern apologies when they have hurt somebody so teach them to say’s am sorry’.
- Teach boys the many little expressions of courtesy and respect that they can show towards women, such as opening doors and pulling out chairs at the dinner table. Although there was a stage where women felt it was condescending, now most women recognize that it is just a method of showing respect and kindness. By teaching our boys these little gestures from a young age, we are inculcating an attitude of respect towards women that will last a lifetime.
Here’s a listing of courtesies we can start educating our boys:
- Always open car Doors to your mother
- Always pull out a chair for your mom before sitting at the table
- Always stand up and offer your seat to women or older people, whether in a waiting room or on a bus
- Always offer to take packages for your mother
- If a woman drops something, pick it up for her
- Always stand up when a woman enters the room, when she leaves the table or when you are introduced to her.